part 2, Notes from the book Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family, by Steve Farrar

In chapter four, titled “One Woman Kind of Man,” Farrar uses the interesting illustration of Hernando Cortez and the burning of the ships. The story goes that that after landing in a new land to explore, Cortez burned all the ships so that his soldiers could not turn back even if they wanted to. They then had to fight. Applied to marriage, if we “burn our ships” behind us, we’ll fight more for our marriage . . . Farrar states, “Burning your ships expresses commitment.” I agree. Men should "burn" the ships that would either make available divorce or would tempt him to return to other relationships. As a matter of fact, I just read on the news three or so days ago, that the threat of the break-up of marriages over old flames is now greater than the threat from the cute little secretary in the front office . . . Not only that, but on another topic, a lot of men have not “cut the apron strings” so that their mother is still very significant in their lives, too significant in many cases. The Scriptures are clear, when you get married, you “leave” your father and mother. I think this means “leave” emotionally, financially, and geographically. To stay in proximity from either angle only causes problems, and many people know this is true, whether they want to admit it or not. As Farrar says, “We live in an era where commitment is cheap” (83), and I think he’s right.
Farrar goes on to use the Marine slogan “Semper fidelis” (always faithful). He goes on to discuss how that a one woman kind of man is committed with his eyes and committed with his mind (on this last topic, this man is aggressive with temptation) (89-97). Furthermore, the one woman kind of man is faithful with his lips (not a flirt), faithful with his hands (careful in touching other women), and committed with his feet (runs away, if need be; see 1 Cor. 6:18).