This site serves as a blog for my pastoral ministry which includes commentary on culture, random topics related to Biblical studies, pastoral ministry, and Christianity in general. The site also serves as an unofficial virtual office for my seminary students and other friends. The goal is to provide encouragement to saints and direction to sinners and seekers.





Thursday, March 15, 2012

part 7, Notes from the book Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family, by Steve Farrar



Chapter ten is titled “Telling Your Kids What You Don’t Want to Tell Them.” It talks about informing your children about sex – what God designed it for, and who should be participating in it. Two simple points here: first, this seems to come as a newsflash for many, but sex is only for a male and a female that are married (that’s two separate issues, actually); second, you, the parent, are the sex instructor. If you don’t teach your kids the right things about sex, you are giving permission to your kids’ friends to instruct YOUR children about sex. And their friends WILL instruct them, only it will not be what a Christian parent wants their children to hear and know.
Farrar declares that virginity should be seen as exemplary, not derogatory. That’s true enough, but it is surely counter-cultural. Farrar’s suggested procedure for teaching is this (you’ll have to read the book to get the details):
1. Small questions deserve small answers
2. Big questions deserve big answers
3. Frank questions deserve frank answers
4. Be casual & natural
5. Look for teachable moments
6. Use the right terms without embarrassment
7. Consider the age of the child
8. Let them know that they can ask you anything and get a straight answer.

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